Free to be me...

Some 50 Years From Now ALL Will Ask Of Black Women, What Were They Thin...

2010-04-22T15:20:00.000-07:00

The 66% Prostitute

2010-04-18T17:26:00.000-07:00

Interesting insight I came across and well it's not too far from wh at I've come to see in most women in the U.S today, not just BLACKWOMEN.

This chart is just the trunk of a tree that I might continue to fully develop. There are other branches of this tree that develop out of the trunk like:
1.Experimental Lesbianism
2.the baby momma
3.the black man hater
4.the interracial dater

Also I might address the roots of this tree like:
1.Feminism
2.Single parent homes
3.Laws, legislature
4.Television, media, etc.
5.Religion

What do you think?

Prostitute, 66%er, slut, and wife. Black women nowadays fall into these categories. Most black women have decided altogether to remove the pursuit of being a wife out of their social lives. They have opted to fluctuate between the two extremes of being a slut that desires to have sex with any man that physically/mentally pleases them and being a prostitute with money replacing the man and any man that has the right dollar amount can sexually have them. There also is the 66% percent prostitute. She falls directly in
between a prostitute and a slut. She fits the definition of "I'm not a gold digger but I ain't going out with no broke nigga." She is the type of woman that mostly deals with guys that are physically or mentally pleasing to her, but she's mostly only sexually active with the ones that take care of her financially. She has devised methods of asking/influencing men to pay her bills and buy her gifts.

Most black women start out as 33%ers in their youth, which between a slut and a wife. The 33%er just wants a verbal commitment. She seeks out establishing relationships with men who are willing to verbally commitment to a monogamous relationship with her. A woman that is in the wife category is not looking to engage in any sexual relationships until she has a full commitment, wedding ring, and everything.

CHINESE FIRM GIVEN LAND DEAL IN SUDAN(AFRICA)

2010-03-19T11:00:00.000-07:00

KHARTOUM- The chinese company ZTE recieved an allocation of approximately 10,000 hectares(acres) of land from the ministry of agriculture.The deal aims at boosting production of wheat and maize,state media reported article link here: http://www.sudantribune.com/spip.php?article34444

there will be no such thing as 'the motherland' in the next 100 years mark my words

Africa will just be a mix of desolate wastelands and big business profit ventures from companies from countries all over the world...

the black man will have no homeland

Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS

2010-03-09T20:59:00.000-08:00

You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him."

I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life...

Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.

Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.

Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherintly unlovable anyways?"

More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!

Another mistake Nice Guys make is to go after "hard luck" cases. They deliberately pick women with neuroses, problems, and personality disorders, because Nice Guys are "helpers". A Nice Guy thinks that by "helping" this woman, it will make him a better, more lovable person. He thinks it will give him a sense of accomplishment, and that she will appreciate and love him more, for all his efforts and sacrifice. He is usually disappointed by the results.

This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

Get this Guys: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

2010-02-22T17:52:00.000-08:00

1) Does watching your lady dress sexy in front of other men get you going? Could be just going clubbing or dinner.

2) If the flames begin to flame out in your relationship. Would you consider bringing other sex partners in the relationship if your lady was down?

3) If you thought you could handle it but figured out in the middle of the encounter that you couldn't. What would you do?

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1326207

Cuckold: The term "Cuckold" is exclusively used for a male whose wife takes other partners.

Cuckquean: The term "Cuckquean" is exclusively used for a female whose Husband takes other partners.

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"Date him or dump him" - how women categorize men

2010-02-21T15:57:00.001-08:00

Five deadly dating patterns
Now that you’ve answered these eight questions, let’s dig into the specific relationship patterns your guy may be caught in. Here are five of the 16 patterns, their degrees of difficulty (10 is the most challenging) and my recommendations for handling each. The first two, “the savior” and “the coward” patterns, are easier to overcome, while the last three, “the super romantic flame-out,” “the grass-is-greener” and “the slacker” types, are in the most challenging group.

1. The savior

He is a super-duper caretaker, a Mr. Fix-It who tries to be romantic too. Your happiness is his happiness. And he doesn’t have much happiness of his own. Underneath it all he is insecure and feels not good enough — so he seems clingy and smothering.

Degree of difficulty: 4

If you are firm and he realizes he has to find his own happiness and stand up for himself or lose you, he will step up. Over time he could evolve into a great partner!

2. The coward

He is afraid of honest straight talk and very afraid of conflict. If differences come up he pulls away and prefers to communicate by e-mail or texts.

Degree of difficulty: 4

Many men have some degree of this pattern. You can break through by using positive talk, where you present your concerns in a loving, warm and clear way. Once you develop a way to navigate conflict, “the coward” can grow into a wonderful Mr. Right.

3. The super romantic flame-out

He is totally on your wavelength and crazy about you from the very first e-mail or glance at your photo. Chances are he is a serial monogamist who has brief periods of being in mad, passionate love with you, then the next, and the next one, following the path of chemistry, wherever it may lead.

Degree of difficulty: 8

Take it slow and easy to make him prove himself. If he doesn’t, be ready to bail.

4. The grass-is-greener type

He has a hard time making up his mind, like he is never sure that the job he has is really the best one for him. Online dating has made this pattern very common. Because there is such a smorgasbord of women, men with this inclination are constantly looking to see whether they can do better.

Degree of difficulty: 8

If he is very true to type, he will be mortally terrified of “settling” — as in, settling down with you. It is usually best to move on before he does.

5. The slacker

He has grand dreams and plans that have been just over the horizon for years. He may be cute and engaging as he passionately describes all that he is going to do. But this is the guy who consistently shoots himself in the foot so that he misses the finish line. He didn’t finish anything — not his degree, his new Web site, his new book, project or the very deal that will get him ahead.

Degree of difficulty: 8

Unless he has started to seriously engage in therapy or coaching, you will not be able to rescue this guy. No, not even you.

It's not your pussy, just your turn.

2010-01-20T11:55:00.000-08:00

Guys that don't realize the truth in these words, will always be wondering or will eventually pay the price because of ego.
Understanding the importance of that phrase will set you free of the most conniving women.

"It's only yours while you're in it, so fuck it like you own it"

Just a few words of wisdom I came across to help some of you out...

Truth and acceptance of a fact...

2010-01-11T13:34:00.000-08:00

TEXT MESSAGING + CAMERA PHONES + INTERNET = DEATH OF VIRTUE

Mistakes MEN make in the GAME

2010-01-09T23:04:00.001-08:00

Being poor leaders in a relationship with women.

Not being communicative- not volume of words but quality of words. Lots of guys think they're expressive because they talk a lot but they aren't really saying anything in their words. Learn to say the important things in a relationship, it'll cut down on assumption and her need to deliberate with her friends on your actions. Most don't do this out of fear of disapproval, but that's when it's time to step up and be a man. Tell here where you're coming from. A woman you date might not always like you- hell- she doesn't even always like her own friends and mother, but she NEEDS to respect you. Communicating properly is worth a TON of points in Ladyland.

Idolatrizing a woman's sexuality (putting a woman's pussy on a pedestal)- Typically when a guy does this, he puts unfair standards on the woman she can't meet. It makes her feel restrictive and as if she's being judged. Many men do this because they view the woman as higher than all others to him (especially guys in a relationship), but it's important to remember that she is human and as a human, she's allowed to make some mistakes with her vagina. That doesn't make her a whore.

Allowing insecurities to get the better of him- You can't afford to be insecure and indecisive. You can't expect someone to put their faith in your as a leader and be indecisive. You can even be wrong (so long as you admit you were and make amends), but you can't be indecisive because it shows a lack of direction. Better to go the wrong way than no way.

Being boring- Women don't like a bad time but they HATE a boring time because they're stimulation addicts. It's part of their make up. It's a key component to their attraction to "bad boys." He gives them something to talk and think about. You don't have to be bad, but you've got to be something. Easiest thing is to be yourself. Being you will give you a certain amount of uniqueness which can also give you a certain amount of edge and mystique. Good stuff.

Being indecisive - Don't leave her on the vine. Before you get too deep in any sort of relationship (fling or girlfriend) ask yourself what you want from the relationship and once you know, begin BEHAVING that way. If you're too indecisive for too long, she will pick up sticks and move on.

Not being a man of his word- Your word is your bond and decree as a leader. Being wrong is better than being a liar. Being critical is better than being a liar. In ladyland, saying youre' going to take out the trash and not taking it out is considered a lie. So be mindful of what you say you will definitely do and once you say it, do it.

Not being consistent in his actions

Being too apologetic - If you're sorry, you're sorry, but if you say "sorry" too much she'll think you're sorry man.

Opening up too soon to a woman - Just like you're turned off by a woman getting intimate too quickly, a woman is turned off by you getting too emotional too fast. And just like the length of acceptable time varies from man to man, it varies from woman to woman.

Underestimating his value as a man/ letting a woman trick him into believing his value is lower - Dont' let anyone decide your value. Often times it's a test and if you let her low ball you, she'll treat you low because you wouldn't assert yourself to be higher.

Hating on other men who are in competition for the same woman- This only gives the woman power over BOTH men. What you've told her is that you value you her more than moral integrity. It says a lot about you (bad stuff) but it also says a lot about her (she must be the shit for you to act this way.) You can't get mad when she acts high post and you can't get mad when she think she can do better. You've proven yourself to be lacking in the Man Code- she probably can do better.

Expecting love, devotion and loyalty of a mother from a girlfriend- You can't expect a woman to love you through thick and thin like your mother. She only treats you that way because you are her offspring. It's important to understand that a relationship must be MAINTAINED. If you don't she will leave you. The only person your girl will love like your mother did is HER KIDS.

Not empathizing with women- Your feelings are like NIGHT VISION when dealing with women. Empathizing doesn't mean you agree, it merely means you see where they're coming from. You don't have to agree but that kind of insight should inform your decisions when dealing with her.

Badly assessing maturity levels - If she's down to get married and you want to fuck around- LET HER GO. There's a drought on chicks with their heads right. Let some other guy get at her who is ready for a commitment. Conversely, if you're ready to settle down and she wants to party, why try to change her? That only builds resentment.

Being too Pre-occupied with a woman they like - Be passionate about something other than the woman and she will use her feminine wiles to divert that attention to her. Want to know women like artists? They hope that he's going to divert all that passion he puts into a project, into her pussy. If the only thing you're passionate about is her, she knows the extent of your attention and has no reason to desire it.

Projecting values of a man on a woman- Women aren't men with vaginas, they are unique individuals going through life with a totally separate experience. While we share some of the same values, its' important that men understand that women do not think the same way as them. That doesn't admonish them from basic moral behavior, but you can't call her weak because she isn't as confrontational as a man or a whore because she values things like security.

Not giving themselves time to heal after a relationship- Emotional scarring can run deep with men and I don't think we're as emotionally resilient as women. In fact, I think that's why women are hesitant to get with guys who have been in a ton of long term relationships or divorced. Men imprint the women they love in their hearts like an animal. So when you separate it hurts for a long time. Dont' be so quick to get back in the game. Take time to heal so you don't end up punishing your woman for something the last woman did.

Not valuing their emotionality- Emotionality of a man is valued by women in the same way that we value sexuality in women. Don't be an emotional ho. Don't share all of our intimate details with every woman. Don't lie to them either, but don't share all of your plans, triumphs, falls and life stories. If a woman is intrigued by you, you've got to use your life experiences like she uses cleavage. Too many men are emotional "hoes" nowadays because they're hoping to exchange emotional intimacy for sexual intimacy. That can only occur if there's a value on the emotional intimacy and the best way to keep that is scarcity.

Not understanding how to be a companion- So much of relationships has been broken down to men = provider, women = child birthers and roll over sex. It's deeper than that. As the leader of the relationship, it's important to understand that the first "offspring" of any couple if the relationship itself. Women love experiences and equally as important as doing some things she wants to do is throwing in some things that maybe neither you guys have done so you can do them together. There are two things that save the average guy when a woman breaks up with him: experiences that she fondly remembers and good sex.

Not understanding how women view sex- It's been often said that only a small number of women can actually have an orgasm through vaginal penetration. That can be argued, but what cannot be argued is that it doesn't stop these women from having sex. The reason is that women enjoy sexual attention. She enjoys feeling desired. The argument could be made that many single women who go through fits of depression and have flings or one night stands do so because they want to feel that sort of sexual attention. Every now and then you've got to ravage her. Even if she fronts like she's not into it. You've got to outlast her and want more. Not just more sex, but more of her. You've got to relay to her that you want more of her when its' not physically impossible to do so. Sex can be likened to a conversation with genitalia. When you start a relationship and you just love talking to a woman and she just loves talking to you and you've got to go but you don't want to get off the phone. You need to transfer that sentiment to sex. You need to make it about her. Also, often men view intimacy as a race to ejaculation. WRONG. There are plenty of women who have sex with men and don't actually get the pleasure of an orgasm or ejaculation and the sex is fine for them. If you want to change it up on a woman and show her it's about the experience of having sexy with her and not just about cumming, let her get hers and then stop. Just cool out and chill there with her in the moment. It's something seldom done by men, increases your stamina and builds a unique sexual bond with a woman because it's probably been seldom, intentionally done with other men.

Not being accountable- Men are leaders and leaders are not only responsible but ultimately accountable. If you're going to run shit and demand the respect and benefits of running things, its' important you take some time to analyze the relationship and see exactly what you're accountable for in it. Trust me, she knows even if you don't and she holds you accountable.
Not being bold- There are actually two distinct old sayings that go well on this- "Fortune favors the bold," and "fortune be lady." Men have penises so they can put their dicks on the table. You want something from a woman: put it out there. It won't work out every single time, but that's life. You cant be scared of rejection. Michael Eisner, former head of Disney, asked his wife to marry him for times before she said yes. She recently said in an interview she was really glad he kept asking. Robert Downey Jr. asked his now wife Susan Downey out four times before she said yes. They met in 2003 on the set of Gothika (he was already famous) and she said "no" because she thought it was weird. Even if a woman doesn't find you attractive, she'll find your boldness and the fact that you have plans for her attractive. It makes her feel valuable and at the same time it shows you're a planner.

Being scared and rationalizing it away- A lot of this "strength" that men show today is "aggressiveness." A lot of the pimp and player mentality of today's man is really a fear of intimacy and being close to a woman. If you don't want that, own it, but if you do, be brave enough to say you want it and convicted enough to stand by a woman when you make that decision. Don't run out and get on some pimp shit because you're scared. Don't try to be player because you're dealing with YOUR feelings of unattractiveness or fear that you made the wrong decision. Be a man and define what that means to you. It doesn't always mean bravado and polyandry.

And finally... and most importantly take note that these mistakes can apply to women as well and if she doesn't show you the same amount of interest, communication, loyalty and commitment, by all means take the high road and bounce, don't ignore the writing on the wall, don't adorn the cape and try and figure out the problem or assist in the repair... let it remain broken because once abused and neglected most women are like a used car, sure in the beginning everything will appear to run smoothly but give it time and things will slowly fall apart. You will in the long run invest more time and effort then expected trying to maintain a lemon of a relationship, then to focus on what it is you really desire and pursue it with passion, confidence and zeal!

THE TEN JUMPOFF COMMANDMENTS

2009-12-30T16:28:00.000-08:00

If more Men knew these commandments, there wouldn’t be so many issues I am really disgusted by the amount of Entertainers and Athletes who allow themselves to be victimized by their jumpoffs. For as long as I can remember, some skank is advancing her career by who she slept with. You know the scenario:

Star meets Jumpoff. Jumpoff seduces Star. Star bangs Jumpoff. Jumpoff leaks the affair to the press. Star loses respect, money (possibly marriage/relationship) and dignity. Jumpoff gets book deal/clothing line/reality show and her sister marries Lamar Odom.

Most recently, NBA player Peja Stojakovic found himself a victim of a Jumpoff’s career advancement strategy. Porn Star Sienna West slept with Stojakovic, tweeted about his “cock” and even did a twitvid. Although the tweets and video were taken down quickly, the damage has already been done.
I honestly don’t know if Stojakovic’s marriage will survive. By the way Stojakovic’s wife is a beautiful model by the name of Aleka Kamila.

With people like Kobe Bryant, Bill Clinton, Steve Phillips, this dummy Stojakovic and the tragedy of my friend Steve McNair, it is clear that people of power and influence have little to no common sense. Rather than complain about the problem, I’ve decided to give these moronic simps some very easy rules to follow to keep them out of trouble and possibly save their lives. Here are the 10 Jumpoff Commandments

1. Thou Shalt NOT marry until retirement

While some may not agree with this, if there’s no marriage, there’s nothing a Jumpoff can hang over your head. No Blackmail, no press conferences, no cut and bleached clothing, and most importantly, no GIVING UP 1/2 of EVERYTHING YOU WORKED FOR! Moreover, if the Jumpoff does video tape you or go to the press, people will cheer you as a hero and file her in the Jumpoff category

2. Thou Shalt Wear Condoms at ALL TIMES

I shouldn’t have to say this, but too many dudes in the industry wind up with unnecessarySTD’s, Paternity suits and (in some cases) subsequent Baby Mama Drama if you would use a flipping condom. You would think you’d learn something from people like Magic Johnson, Easy-E and 50 Cent. Death and Paying ridiculous sums of money are not worth a quick nut.

3. Thou Shalt Deal with Age Appropriate Jumpoffs

Don’t think that banging a young Jumpoff is not a big deal? Ask R. Kelly. He banged a 14 year old and pissed on her on tape and…. Nothing Happened. Okay. Bad Example. Look at Former President Clinton’s run-in with Monica Lewinski and the nonsense that David Letterman is going through from banging interns. You can’t go through one news cycle without hearing about it. Yes, all of these people are still mega-rich but YOU’RE NOT THEM, so deal with women who are mature enough to play their position.

4. Thou Shalt Not Put a Jumpoff Before Your Money!

I know that some of these Jumpoffs are so good in the sack that you want to revisit them and that’s okay. You can’t allow them to get into your head and have your nose open where you’re shirking your responsibilities. Trust me, the Jumpoff will always be there as long as your career is popping.

5. Thou Shalt Not Sleep with Superhead

Two Books, countless videos and TV appearances where she dogs out your peers, but for some reason you still want to mess around with this crazy broad?!? WTF? Do you not remember what she did to Eddie Winslow? (Yes I know his real name but no one cares) Superhead said he left his “Butt Beads” at her house and what does he do? He MARRIES HER! Which brings me to Number 6

6. Thou Shalt Not Treat a Jumpoff Like a Wife

The Jumpoff is for one purpose – Sex. Anything else constitutes a relationship. Confusing this leads to unnecessary drama.

7. Thou Shalt Not Trick

Speaking of unnecessary drama, look at what happened to Steve McNair. When I first heard he died, I never thought it would be by the hands of a Jumpoff. I hate to say this about a friend, but all of this was Steve’s fault. He bought this girl a car, an apartment and he took her on vacation. All that tricking and what did he get for it? Nothing but an untimely demise.

8. Thou Shalt Not Leave Evidence

If you’re just determined to be in a relationship/marriage and have Jumpoffs on the side, you have got to be smart. This means cleaning out your viewed websites history on your computer, deleting text messages and for goodness sakes, get rid of any damning pictures. If you get caught, it’s because you’re sloppy or you’re stupid. Peja Stojakovic should have known by looking at his porn star Jumpoff’stwitvid page that this chick was quick to tape what most people would consider private. After all, SHE’S A PORN STAR!

9. Thou Shalt Not Fall Asleep at Thy Jumpoff’s House
See #7.

10. Thou Shalt Not Give Away Any Personal Information.

Your Jumpoffs should never know where you live, how many kids you have or what your schedule consists of. The more they know about you, the more they can use against you. If you feel the need to share a wealth of information, I suggest you have your lawyer draft a non-disclosure agreement and have the Jumpoff sign before you get down.

The majority of these commandments are common sense. The problem is that most people these days don’t have it. If you keep these commandments, you’ll have many years of success and happiness. If you don’t, you’re simply going to wind up being the next Peja Stojakovic.

10 Cruel Things Women Do To Men

2009-12-25T23:07:00.000-08:00

Not my list... although I've done my share...

10. They don’t pick up the phone.
You convinced her to give you her number and you’re feeling good about yourself. Your charm and good looks have obviously made an impression on her. Unfortunately, when you try to call, she doesn’t pick up or, worse yet, she’s given you a fake number. Some women will give you their numbers because it’s easier than trying to tell you why she’s not interested. What’s more, in the age of caller ID, it’s easy for her to avoid your calls. At least the women who give you a made-up number are being more obvious about the fact that they have no intention of talking to you again.

I do that with ex's, I'm doing it now... He won't take the hint! We have nothing to talk about, let him wonder all he wants, I won't be the one to tell, shit put the pieces of the puzzle together and you'll see your truth... Do you need a brick to fall on your head!

9. Use men for free drinks.
Some women go out never planning to spend any of their own money on drinks at the bar or club. Instead, they count on their feminine wiles to convince guys to shell out for their libations. Some of these women will take the opportunity of a guy buying a drink for her to begin to get to know him, but others (the cruel and heartless ones) will take that drink, flirt a little and move on to the next sucker with money to burn.

I don't drink that much, but I have gotten a few airline tickets and a bill or two paid.

8. Use men as placeholders.
Maybe you’ve been in a relationship for a while and you notice that her eye is starting to wander. She’s starting more fights with you or not bothering to fight at all anymore. Her friends get quiet when you walk into a room. She’s avoiding your phone calls. Her things are disappearing from your place. The AM article Breakup Warning Signs talked about all these hints that she’s thinking about putting an end to your relationship and, well, they’re cruel things.

If she is a decent person, she’ll just get it over with and dump you already, but if she’s cruel, she’ll hold on to you for a while until somebody new comes along. These girls don’t like to be alone and without a relationship, so instead of putting you out of your misery and ending it, she’ll string you along until she meets someone to replace you. If she’s really cruel, she’ll start things up with him before she’s finalized the breakup with you.

Just did that one two months ago, broke him down like a bitch, was so sad to see... Nice guy just wasn't for me. We say we want nice, kind, and caring but in reality we never do...
I don't know what I want half the time, but when the opportunity is there I will take it.

7. Emotionally manipulate men.
Men don’t like to see women cry and some cruel women will take advantage of this fact and use it to get what they want. In general, women are much more emotional than men and it’s easy for some women to use a man’s complete incomprehension of female feelings to get something out of him. A few well-placed tears or a temper tantrum and most men will do anything to get it to stop.

6. Use physical violence.
Men are usually raised with the idea that hitting girls is a major no-no. Unfortunately, there are some cruel women who use this aspect of a man’s personality to gain power over him. In the minds of some women, it’s perfectly acceptable to slap a boyfriend across the face when he says something to piss her off. Knowing that he would never hit her back, this type of woman feels like she can inflict any kind physical pain on him without fear of repercussion. A man is also less likely to tell someone about suffering physical violence at the hands of his girlfriend if he believes he’ll be thought of as weak or pathetic.

5. Criticize their men in public.
A growing trend in television shows and commercials is that of depicting men as bumbling idiots, while their wives and girlfriends are intelligent, in control and flawless. This may contribute to the real life practice of cruel women who criticize and humiliate their men in public places. Women can get away with this in ways that men would never be allowed to. When a woman pokes fun at her man or even soundly debases him, the group surrounding them is more likely to laugh than to be appalled.

4 They don’t disclose their relationship status.
You’ve pulled out all your best moves and you seem to be making progress with the cute girl you’ve just met. When you finally get to the point when you feel you can safely ask for her number, she smiles and says: “I have a boyfriend.” That information would have been nice to have at the beginning of the conversation. It’s certainly not the worst thing a woman could do to a man, but it is annoying when she lets you assume that she’s available so that she can enjoy your flirtation and flattery.

3 They withhold sex.
This is a time-tested, and frequently used, cruel thing for women to do to men. For most men, sex is as important as breathing, so withholding it in order to get something she wants or simply to punish her man for his transgressions is a pretty awful thing to do, even if it is effective.

Never, not at all, I love to fuck...

2 They test their men.
You’re all ready to go for a night out with your friends, when your girlfriend calls and asks you to change your plans to be with her instead. She doesn’t have any particular reason; she just wants to see you. She knows that you had plans to meet up with the guys, but if you really loved her, you’d come over to her place instead. If her request comes with an “if you really loved me,” then it’s a test. If you choose anything other than immediately rushing to her side, you’re going to fail. This kind of testing in a relationship is indeed cruel and petty.

1 They flirt to inspire jealousy.
Maybe she’s feeling underappreciated, maybe you’ve just had a big fight or maybe she just enjoys the tortured look on your face. For whatever reason, girls who flirt obviously with other guys in front of their boyfriends are immature and manipulative.

Not to make him jealous, I just didn't care after a while, I know lots of guys get over it, I have lots of male friends, and yes I fucked a lot of them, thats why we are friends...LoL!

My #1 Never fuck your mans friends because if confronted you can say you never did... You can suck his cock thought, they never ask if you did that!

survival mode

2009-12-24T16:14:00.000-08:00

Don't judge another person unless you have walked in their shoes.
As a young woman coming to a different country finding herself alone without work papers, true friends or family I came to understand how my mother felt and how she made the choices she made.
Because of my situation in life growing up being molested and raped I suppose I developed a different outlook on sex. As much as I enjoy it part of me detaches from it depending on the situation. I can do the same thing with my feelings, it's as if I have a light switch that I can turn on and off at will.
I can disconnect and go through the motions without giving thought to it.
So when one finds themselves in a moment of desperation it's a practice that allows you to survive through the actions you may take to make progress in your life... A woman with hungry children will do what ever it takes to provide for her young... how can you question the choices she might make, the well being of her children should be the only concern.
There is an old saying that a broke woman with good pussy is a fool...
I was a fool for love once, never again!
I came here to achieve something and I will, so don't judge me unless you've walked in my shoeless foot steps.
I'm ready for success, perhaps not at all costs but I have made sacrifices that most women wouldn't.

What men online really think about black models...

2009-12-21T13:24:00.000-08:00

"All this standing around taking useless pictures and calling yourself a model is pointless. WTF are you modeling. Some people model clothes, some people model their hands, some people model their eyes, ect. YOU ARE JUST GETTING NUDE FOR THE CAMERA!!!!"

"I'm tryin to get my modeling career off the ground and I'm doing blah blah blah... blah blah blah." "Whatever, bitch. Just turn yo fat ass over so I can fuck."

"98% OF BLACK CHICKS ARE "ASS" MODELS. I AIN'T SEEN NAN BLACK CHICK ON THE RUNWAY MODELING CLOTHES!

EVERY PICTURE I SEE...THEY NAKED"

"we live in an attention whore society too...plus every nigga has a digital camera and a website...I mean...there's like 15 sources to blame for this tomfoolery

realistically, black women aren't 'taking over' the high fashion and modeling industry or coming anywhere close

"anybody can take good pictures if the photographer is good at tweaking them.... but if you don't and never had a contract please take your ass back to school."

"my question is WTF are they modeling? I just see chicks posed up. I never see them on anything or anywhere, it seems they live only to be posted on boards like this...seems like a sham to me. The only winners are the photographers."

"if you wanna do it, fine....just stop takin the shit so damn serious! These chicks be takin that shit to heart when you talk about what they're doing...photographers too....gettin all defensive...it's like 'ooookkkkkkaaayyyyy' if you say so...just say it's a hobby, or you really like doing it and think it's a good source of money but realize it's not anything to take too serious....

niggas act like they're the head of media development at Esquire Magazine and shit fumbling around in a 1 bedroom apartment, an old camera, a slow laptop, and a shabbily hung shower curtain as the background...

chicks act like they're on Gisele Bunchin status or are booked solid with talk show appreances and shit and all they do is exploiting their quickly fleeting looks and making a lil chump change wit it..."

all these cute hoodrats are just exploiting themselves for chump change."

"Just because your on modelmayhem DO NOT MEAN YOU A MODEL...It's just your hobby."

"every internet video model is a hoe, if a bitch takes nude, or semi-nude pictures for money, she is a hoe in the literal sense of the word, even the ones that try to mask theyre hoeness by taking the occasional artsy picture.

they're all unwifeable. God 4 sperm deposits only. "

Link to forum
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Wow is that what people think of me?

why am I so fucked up...

2009-12-20T23:31:00.000-08:00

I am more then my body; but few if any care to see the depth of the pain and fears living deep inside me, the loneliness that is masked by promiscuous acts and the need for approval, acceptance and attention... I am beautiful, my body draws you in yet no one see the truth of my insecurity.
Signed: The little black monkey...

Should you reveal all of your skeletons?

2009-12-20T16:58:00.000-08:00

Stripping, posing nude, web whoring, or one night stands... honesty is of major importance in a monogamous relationship, everyone deserves an opportunity to make an informed decision as to their future! What a person has done in the past for some is a gauge into an individuals moral standing, character or sexual habits... if you can't be up front and transparent about who you are or were then why should they trust you that things have changed if you feel you have to hide it....
Be up front and prove to him that he is a priority in your life and that the past is no longer who you are, I'm sure he will appreciate you more for it.

I think older or more experienced women in the game need to communicate to the younger women just how important reputation is

they also need to communicate how unforgiving the world can be, there is a double standard for men and women regarding sexual activity, it's a sad but true fact.

Young women (do I really need to say not all?) really feel like they can whore it up as much as they want when they are youthful, then when they are ready (amassed enough money, found a $uitor etc.) just go back to a normal life. What everybody failed/fails to tell a lot these females is that the world owes no obligation to her.
If you sell pussy, strip,are promiscuous etc. you're ALWAYS going to be seen in that light
you can NEVER get away from it outside of just moving very far away...

The world doesn't care how much you've changed, women need to understand this before engaging in these lifestlyes. The seal of whoredom is an eternal one.

Hate to see women bitter and sullen because the world lied to them.
Not to mention the many casualties of broken hearted men they've destroyed during their journey...
Remember dogs are not born they are created by selfish bitches...
I know I've created a few.

Silly me...

2009-12-19T15:52:00.002-08:00

How crazy I must have seemed to call them my Kings when all I had lately seen were images on computer screens.
Yet the man who beside me laid and fought beside me through my battles and offered me his love and devotion and dedicated his life and wanted to make me his wife... Yet I didn't think twice before doing what he confessed would destroy his life.
Voices and texts on secret cell phone messages gave me chills of excitement and desire, my passions fire grew higher, I discussed love and sex and what I would do with all others and anyone who requested,Yet my love for him I neglected and continued to deceive the one who made me the illusion of their dreams; Who schooled me in a way few if any chose to, but devotion to him I could not do... I loved him but I was not in love.
And I question if I ever could be or ever was...

No commitment needed...

2009-11-26T13:43:00.000-08:00

I Love to love and love being in love, but I can't commit right now...
I need to be free...
Freedom for me is being me, it's who I am and those who know me understand what that means...